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hi
i know this is sometime hard to talk about but i am asking how some of you work this this out. before i had RA my self and my husband had a very good life in bed but now it has gone right out the window because the pain i have is too much to bear and my boody is not as bendy has it used to be, just a simple question how do some of you manage or are we down to gentle hugs and kisses.
thanks for your answers before you give them me
love
Audrey.
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Yes, you've got it in one. Maybe others manage but my level of interest has certainly changed, and I'm much keener on gentle affection than anything more athletic. The very idea makes me feel shattered.
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the arthritic research council has a booklet called "sex and arthritis" with some ideas in it.
I think for women, a lot of it is emotional and not feeling particularly "sexy". this can be worked on in relationship therapy.
its not the end of your sex life getting RA.how to be a velvet bulldoser
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jenni_b wrote: ...its not the end of your sex life getting RA....
but a mug of tea is so much nicer and it lasts longer  Lyn x
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Hi Yes I am about to hit the big 40 this july and i guess through one thing or another it has gone out of the window a bit--hahah at the mug of tea remark!! Its a bit rubbish though as i always find i am feeling dreadful after :-( vicky 
If at first you don't suceed,try then try again..:-)
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Hi Audrey,
Tell him what you want and make him do all the hard work! It can turn out to be quite a funny game!
Sara
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hi
thanks for sharing you thoughts on this as some people feel it hard to talk about anything personnel, will just carry on thenks everyone
take care
Audrey
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WHAT DO I DO ????  I HATE TEA i am getting tooo tooo old for that ma larkie . But ya gota to please the toy boy ......  the poor man has been married to me for nearley 26 yrs poor old soul chris The chocolate eating housewife ...The washer woman .....naughty lady
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hi all i can relate to this topic myself cause me and my hubby have not had sex or any touch in bed for the last two years.One thing he said to me when I was diagnosed that he would be there for me always? he is but at a distanst 34 years on he is still here but has no idea of my day to day life and just persues his life with me working along side him keeping his company going and him having his social life He never even asks" how are you feeling today or are you having any pain .maybe its my fault for being so hard because you do put up a wall I know he loves me and finds it difficult to handle but OMG what do we have to cope with x
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Do what I did...I bought him a copy of War & Peace, as I thought this might deflect his thought patterns for a while. It failed, so I used it as a bedroom doorstop!  On a more sympathetic note, I know this subject can be awkward, perhaps embarrassing, but by infusing a little humour, together with a willingness to talk about it when necessary, can be very reassuring and is certainly helping us through. Best wishes Ellie
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definately I joke about it all the time with friends and family.They find it quite amusing.x
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I miss being with my other half physically...I know he still finds me attractive, but I just feel so repulsive! I've gained so much weight thanks to meds and this oedema that I can't seem to shift..add to it the pain and fatigue from the RA and Fibro...again, add the shift-work and you've got a very very tired Tang :( "You can't live without the fire
It's the heat that makes you strong
'Cause you're born to live
And fight it all the way" Within Temptation ~ 'Iron'
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